Move over, O.J. Simpson. Britney Spears is back in the news,
to capture the headlines of the mainstream media and the imagination of the
lazy-minded American public.
Never mind the fact that U.S. soldiers are dying daily in
Iraq, Blackwater mercenaries are killing innocent Iraqi civilians with
impunity, and Dick Cheney is itching to nuke Iran. Britney, they tell us, is
the big news of the day.
You see, on October 1, Britney lost custody of her two
children due to her bad behavior. Her ex-husband Kevin Federline will take care
of the kids for a while. Lesser of two evils.
The media are all over it. The watercooler crowd is abuzz.
Britney, who just a few short years ago "had it all" -- beauty,
success, teenybopper fans galore, and enough money to live well forever -- now
crashes and burns. The public eats it up. Schadenfreude for the stupid.
Meantime, the religious right keeps telling us that gay
couples do not make suitable parents. A child needs a mother and a father.
Well, Britney and K-Fed are heterosexuals. Their children have a mother and a
father. But how well adjusted do you think they'll turn out?
Who would you rather have as parents: Britney and K-Fed or,
say, the sane, stable rock star Melissa Etheridge and her long-term lesbian
partner? Be honest.
Or, in real life, who would you rather have as parents: The
loving same-sex couple down the street who have been together for longer than
most straight couples you know, or the heterosexual workaholic and alcoholic
across the street whose kids never have a chance to sit down to a good
old-fashioned family dinner? Be honest.
Discrimination does not serve our children well.
Homophobia does not serve our children well.
Bad parenting, whether you're straight or gay, does not
serve our children well.
What serves our children well are love, stability, respect,
and honesty; not bigotry, hatred, self-righteousness, or
"judgmentalism."
Those who dare to judge the parental qualifications of
others, based only on their sexual orientation (that is, who they happen to
love), would do better to step back, look deep inside themselves, and ask
themselves what they're really so afraid of. But they won't. Because they do
not dare. All bigotry and hatred are rooted in fear and insecurity. It's too
much for the coward to face head-on. For the coward, it is so much easier to
simply hate.
Mary
Shaw is a Philadelphia-based writer and activist. She is a former Philadelphia
Area Coordinator for the Nobel-Prize-winning human rights group Amnesty
International, and her views on politics, human rights, and social justice
issues have appeared in numerous online forums and in newspapers and magazines
worldwide. Note that the ideas expressed here are the author's own, and do not
necessarily reflect the opinions of Amnesty International or any other
organization with which she may be associated. E-mail: mary@maryshawonline.com.